Every parent wants to build a loving family, but as with all human relationships, there are many challenges along the way. Sibling rivalry, difficulty finding the right discipline method, ineffective communication — these are but a few things that can hinder a strong family relationship.
In this episode of The Mentee Podcast, Lindsay Cambre, a licensed professional counselor, shares her tips on building a strong, healthy family unit. She discusses teaching children proper communication, empathy, and conflict resolution to ultimately develop solid relationship foundations between every member of the family.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Teach children how to communicate their feelings.
- Invite children to participate in creating a vision for the family.
- Set a good example.
- Always be present and empathetic.
- Encourage open communication between family members.
[10:01] Fostering Social and Emotional Skills
Discipline methods are different for each person, but parents should always come from a place of empathy. Let your children communicate their feelings and help them process them in a healthy way.
Your children might not always know what words to use to describe how they feel, but with consistency and determination, you can teach them these kinds of social and emotional skills.
[14:47] Create a Clear Vision
When creating a vision of the future that you want for your family, you need to let your family participate. Doing this will clarify the part each member of the family plays in achieving it.
[24:10] Set an Example
Whether from their parents or on social media, everything children see can influence their worldview. Instead of giving quick responses to your children’s questions, try asking them back. This will give you insight into a child’s perspective, which you can use to shape your response.
[25:49] Rituals for Healthy Relationships
Being present for your children is crucial, but setting boundaries is equally important. This will allow you to give them your appropriately undivided attention by separating work and family time.
When your children face situations that are outside their empathy zones, try passive storytelling. Address the issue indirectly — this will make them feel safer and more receptive to your conversation.
[32:07] Discuss Pits and Peaks
Read up on books about building a culture of empathy and kindness within your home. Set aside time for everyone to share their low and high points every day. Encourage your children to put themselves in the sharer’s shoes by asking them what they might’ve felt in that situation.
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